Enneagram: Understanding Others

Designs and Patterns

All around us there are designs and patterns that are pleasing to look at. I enjoy the vast array of flowers that bloom indoors and outdoors. Lately I have been reading about a different kind of design/pattern.

In the book, The Road Back to You, Ian Morgan Cron describes the enneagram as a map of the human personality. The enneagram describes nine different personality types. Each type sees the world in a slightly different way. The nine types are motivated in unique ways. 

My primary goal in reading a book about the enneagram was to get a tool to help with character development as I worked on my novel, but . . .

As I read each chapter, I was able to see myself and my husband with new understanding. There is value in spending time to see another way of interacting, another way of learning and communicating. 

Concurrently I am reading, Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall, participating in a group study. Chapter 4 in the book is titled, “Playing God”. Our group had a lively discussion about judging others. We compared and contrasted judgement and criticism. 

As I thought about the two books, I realized the importance of spending time communicating with people that are different. What is motivating the behavior that I don’t understand? I might be too quick to judge.

Have you read a book about the enneagram? What did you think?

This post is shared with the Five Minute Friday writing community. Today’s prompt is: DESIGN

Also linking up with Heart Encouragement .

Author: Carol

Carol is a follower of Jesus and a wife, mom & grandma. She worked for many years as a childbirth nurse and prenatal educator. She recently retired from clinical work. She has written articles for nursing journals and devotionals. Her novel, Aliisa's Letter, was published in 2010 and she is currently working on another project.

6 thoughts on “Enneagram: Understanding Others”

    1. Yes, Barb!! I was thinking the same thing. He is so patient, and loving, and gentle in that way.

      Carol, in my 24 years of working with children and families, I have learned a lot about the lenses through which we each view the world. I LOVE your point about the importance of communicating with people who are different. I believe it is in our willingness to ask the questions (and explore the answers) where growth, grace, and healing, are birthed. We need more of this, and I thank you for this reminder today.

  1. I gleaned much from RT Kendall’s book; another book I highly recommend on that subject is “Unpacking Forgiveness” by Chris Brauns. I know nothing about “enneagram,” so greatly appreciate your review of “The Road Back to You.” I will add it to my ever growing reading list of books suggested by this writing group. ~ Cindie at FMF #30

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