Someone was ringing the doorbell persistently. My husband went to the door and I looked on, curious. A deliveryman handed a wrapped florist parcel to him. Who is sending flowers? I wondered.
The enclosed card was inscribed, Happy Anniversary. It was from our sister-in-law. And then I remembered. Our 40th anniversary was just days away.
We have been blessed and refined by many years of marriage. The day after the flowers arrived, my husband and I attended a world-view conference led by Dr. Frank Turek. During the course of his presentation he spoke about the benefits of marriage between one man and one woman—and the reason why the government has had an interest in marriage historically. Here are the benefits I jotted down;
- Creates children
- Children are raised by a mom and a dad
- Civilizes men
- Protects women
- Perpetuates and stabilizes society
Dr. Turek covers this topic in his book, Correct, Not Politically Correct. He also has a website: cross-examined.org
When God set down the pattern for marriage it was for our good, as a couple, and for society as a whole.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Jesus affirmed this view of marriage: Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?” Matthew 19: 4-5
In our marriage, my husband and I have grown in our faith and helped each other with new skills. We have had good times and hard times. We have sometimes communicated well and at other times not very well. We have learned forgiveness and self-sacrifice. We have raised children and now have three married adult children and seven grandchildren.
How can we pass on a healthy view of marriage to children and grandchildren?
1. When the Bible is a part of our daily life it becomes a guidebook for healthy living. Regular Bible reading and prayer at home is a good thing.
2. We need to discuss sexuality with the children God has placed in our influence. God’s design for sex is healthy and fulfilling; it requires boundaries. Surveys have shown that teens wish that their parents would discuss this topic with them.
3. We can give our testimony as a couple, explaining how God has worked in our life.
4. We can pray for the young people in our circle of influence and look for opportunities to offer words of guidance and encouragement. This morning my husband and I prayed for our grandchildren.
Can you think of additional ways to promote healthy marriages?