Roe v. Wade is once again being discussed. During the Senate confirmation hearing for Amy Coney Barrett, Judge Barrett was asked many questions about the Supreme Court decision that legalized abortion nationwide 47 years ago. Senator Klobuchar asked if the decision was a super precedent—a decision that should never be reviwed.
I have thought about abortion from the perspective of a woman, a mother and a nurse.
Abortion is defended as a woman’s right to choose. With national legalization it is more than that. When abortion was made medically available and normalized, a parent was given the ability to pressure a daughter to abort a baby that might be an embarrassment to the family (as happened to one of my daughter’s friends). A boyfriend, an abuser or a pimp could more easily pressure a girl to abort an inconvenient pregnancy—releasing young men from any responsibility. The national legalization of abortion normalized the choice to kill life.
A friend of mine learned that the child in her womb had a genetic defect. She was pressured to abort the baby. She was “encouraged” multiple times by her doctor and refused. She gave birth and honored the life of that child.
In 1999 I wrote an article for a nursing journal about another woman who went against the current of medical opinion. The baby in her womb had been diagnosed with a major deformity. She carried the baby to term and was able to care for her child for a month, loving him until he passed away.
Five years ago I wrote a blog post about a patient of mine who experienced a pregnancy loss and the way that the nursing staff honored that baby’s life. Here is a portion of that article.
I recalled an experience that I had as a nurse in the hospital. My patient experienced a miscarriage. At sixteen weeks gestation, the infant had died in the womb. The mother had experienced wrenching physical and emotional pain as she labored. She had moaned, tossing and turning in bed. As her nurse, I had given morphine ordered by the doctor, but it had not covered the pain. After eight exhausting hours the body of the tiny girl baby was delivered.
We wrapped the baby in a blanket and after the mother held her, I made the memorial card. I held the tiny feet gently, applied ink and made footprints on the bereavement card—a memorial to the life of a baby girl and one aspect of bereavement care provided at the hospital.
At the nurse’s station, a doctor was explaining various medications that he had used to abort pregnancies. He talked about the abortion process and it struck me that women going through abortion may have experienced the same misery that I had just witnessed. The difference was that they did not receive bereavement care. Women went home from the hospital or clinic quietly. The experience may have been traumatic and done in secret.
Although some celebrities have said that they are proud of their abortion, many women carry emotional and spiritual wounds. The group, Silent No More, testifies about the long lasting pain of abortion.
There is a deep sense among many people that the quick fix offered by abortion is not right or good.
The Wall Street Journal (10/16/2020) quoted Judge Barrett’s response to Senator Klobuchar’s question about a super precedent. “I’m answering a lot of questions about Roe, which indicates that Roe doesn’t fall into that category”.
The images of the developing infant are courtesy of Creative Commons through this license.
Thank you for sharing your heart here. I like how you kept using the word “normalized”. Society and humankind in general has basically “normalized” killing another human being, just because it’s in the womb. I hadn’t heard about the Silent No More group. I have heard stories on Focus on the Family where women suffered emotionally years later after aborting their babies.
I pray that Roe v. Wade will be overturned and that ALL life from conception through birth will be recognized as the precious lives that they are no matter what the circumstances of that life.